This picture was almost 30 years ago. Oct 6, 1990. Sarah and I got married that day. I am getting last minute advice from my Dad on the right, and my Father-in-law on the left. Great advice from both! Time really does go fast. My Dad now has been gone over 6 years. I don’t think a day goes by where I don’t think of him. He was a great role model. He did whatever he had to do for his family. A lot of guys can be a Father, but not everybody can be a Dad. There is a lot of pressure on us guys to try to live up to that expectation. Sometimes we do just fine, and other times we need to ask for a do over. Hopefully we learn from our mistakes as we get older.
I learned a lot from both of my parents. They were married for 59 years when my Dad passed away. Nothing ever goes perfect. There are challenges, mistakes, lessons learned, but at the end of the day, it all worked out. My Mom struggles a lot since he has been gone.
With seven kids in the family, there was always plenty to do. We were a family, and are still very close. Those traits my parents passed down to all of us kids as well. We are all close.
I see how there were plenty of times when they just needed to take a break, and relax. Being a Dad is a full time job. 24/7, 52 weeks a year. We always had questions for him, or wanted his advice on how to do something. Many of those times he knew the answer, and those other times, he helped direct us to find an answer.
He was a great grandfather as well. Here he is with Nick. Nick is now 23! Hopefully I can be there for my kids when they need it as well. Both Sarah and I always get calls for advice. What should I do about this? How do you fix this? What would you do under this circumstance?
It was tough with both Sarah and I being a physician. We would put in long days at work, and then continue it at home. We worked together, and trading off who could be at their events, if both of us couldn’t be. One of us would be there. We both still ran as it was a means of relieving stress. The kids would be right there with us. They would go with us, or ride their bike with us, or be the cheerleader for us as well. I want them to do the same for their kids. Lead by example.
Nick and I started a tradition a few years ago of going to a Vikings game together. I don’t know what this year is going to be with the Coronavirus going on, or if they will even have a NFL season. Time will tell. If nothing else, we will have a pause in this year, and pick back up next year. If they do have a season, maybe we go somewhere else to watch it, not at the stadium. Will have to see what the future brings.
The kids are growing up fast. Molly is now married. They still spend time together, and worry about each other. And so do we!
They will always be my little kids when they come home. Dakota loves all the attention when they come home too. We are still family, and always will be. As a Father, I hope I have helped them become who they are. My Dad’s advice to me was if you think you are right, then don’t back down. If you are wrong, then admit it. Stand up for yourself, because if you don’t, who will? We stand up for each other. Hopefully, we keep being active together, and have more races and events to do. When we start having grandkids, we have a lot to teach them too. They will be running, walking, or riding bike along side us as well. Happy Father’s Day to all you Dad’s out there. Keep working at it. And, keep moving everybody!
Dr. Dan
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